having got up again far too early on a day when I didn't need to I thought I would catch up on some of my blog reading! The first one I read was Lesley's blog about apologies. This resonated with me as I am sometimes surprised at how people treat others and even when they are challenged about their behaviour/attitude/how they spoke to someone would never dream of saying sorry.
Some of this could be about their own insecurities, which comes across in arrogance and therefore couldn't possibly be wrong, some of it could be that they don't understand the 'healing' and reconciliation that an apology brings, because they have never experienced it. For others though, it does come from a deep seated arrogance that the individual is right, regardless of what is correct or loving.
I know some folk who can get upset when they have been hurt and they want an apology, but when it is them doing the hurting, it is seen as 'being needed to have been said', and they do that because it is their way....
The Gospels tell us to: Love God, love your neighbour/enemy/ as you love yourself. Do good to those that hurt you, forgive 70x7. As a follower of Christ, who frequently gets it wrong, I hope that I apologise when I get things wrong, when I do something that upsets or hurts someone else, that way I am trying to love my neighbour as myself as I would want that apology.
Let's stop this blame culture in the church, let's try to focus on God, bringing honour not dishonour, bringing peace not conflict.
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